I bought a dress! And that exclamation point is motivated
equally by loving my dress and the knowledge that I do not have to shop
anymore.
While my last experience (from the salon where I ended up
purchasing my gown) was excellent, all other experiences leading up to this
SUCKED. However, since I did have one good one, I can conclude that the prior
pain was cause not by some fundamental flaw in my dress-buying DNA, but by
being in the wrong bridal salon.
And so here is some advice I learned that may help you
decide if you’re in the wrong salon as well.
1.
Are you making the face you see in the above picture? This is not the dress
I picked, this is the dress that I looked desperate in because my consultant
was like a drill sergeant. Dress shopping should be fun, and if it isn’t,
you’re in the wrong salon.
2.
Is every dress you put on well over the budget
you gave your consultant? Sure, it’s OK to try on a dress or two that breaks
the bank, but if you say $1,000 and every dress you’re putting on is $2,000,
then you’re either in a salon that is out of your range, or have a consultant
that only cares about her commission.
3.
Did they shame you about your budget? What you
want to spend is YOUR decision. If you give them a budget and get met with a
tirade on why that is not feasible, then go elsewhere.
4.
Do you feel badly about yourself? I walked into
my first appointment with a jump in my step because I’d just lost 40 lbs and
was ready to feel pretty. Instead, my twiggy consultant must have reiterated to
me that I am a “big girl” FIFTY times. If at any point, your consultant says something to make you feel badly about
your body, move on.
5.
Are you dictating? There is a balance here- you
know what you want, and your consultant knows what they have and should have advice on what might work on your body. If you say “I want lace” and your consultant points to a rack
for you to dig through and walks away, you aren’t in the right place. They should ask
questions, offer suggestions, and guide you through the inventory. If they
don’t, find someone who will.
Sorry that the people were mean to you when you went to buy your dress. They are just mean bullies. Losing 40 lbs is a big deal. Congratulations!
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