tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2016855771148413935.post3859977453370973609..comments2023-09-30T02:45:56.254-07:00Comments on Shauna’s Made Up Stuff: AngerShaunaKelleyWriteshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04654367734305011629noreply@blogger.comBlogger4125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2016855771148413935.post-25264667774347697742012-04-14T08:39:01.009-07:002012-04-14T08:39:01.009-07:00I know this is an older post, so you probably have...I know this is an older post, so you probably have (on some level) moved on a tiny bit. However I just wanted to say that I lost my father to multiple myeloma on my twentieth birthday. I hear you about anger. I watched my grandfather, one of those epic, wonderful larger than life people, slip into dementia and die. My first born daughter was diagnosed with a rare, life threatening illness... I work with people who have had their lives ruined by random, stupid, acts of fate. I FEEL YOU ON THE ANGER!<br />And I found it refreshing to hear you say that it doesn't fade. It doesn't go away. We just learn to hide it. That time heals all wounds thing is bull. Total and utter bull that was thought up by someone who hasn't been there. It doesn't heal wounds. It gives you a tiny bit of distance from them. Other things work their way in and you are able to focus on those things instead. But the anger and the grief will always be there. (At least in my experience). And you know what? I think we have every right to BE angry. I hate it when someone is grieving and people act like its something bad. Grieve. Do it whenever you need to. Those raging bouts of anger and frustration with the world are cathartic. <br />And know you aren't alone. <br />Best wishes!Kaye Draperhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09134006398950107252noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2016855771148413935.post-87172266519254233752011-08-13T11:57:22.834-07:002011-08-13T11:57:22.834-07:00I know how angry you are, Shauna. And I feel it. I...I know how angry you are, Shauna. And I feel it. I'm so angry, but I'm angry at death. I know it probably sounds immature, but I'm so damn mad that it pops out of nowhere. In the past two years I've lost my grandfather, who was my best friend, the boy I loved and one of my closest friends. The last two were 19 and 21 and I cannot for the life of me imagine why they had to go. Why now.<br />I don't think I'll ever know. I don't know about time healing. Because with time, I only miss them more and sometimes the anger and sadness is so overwhelming I feel like I'm drowning.<br /><br />I can understand what it's like for you, although I cannot imagine being without my mother. Your mother sounds wonderful and you make her come alive through this post.<br /><br />It might come across as horrible but grief can often be very inspiring. Channel it in your writing, your book.<br /><br />I'm thinking of you.Bidishahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17382938442171208326noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2016855771148413935.post-83052640180711743702011-08-13T09:08:03.171-07:002011-08-13T09:08:03.171-07:00I'm so sorry you have to go through this. I...I'm so sorry you have to go through this. I'll be thinking of you and your mother today. xoxoJessica Bellhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10889900730906728317noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2016855771148413935.post-85270220131220827832011-08-13T06:09:38.885-07:002011-08-13T06:09:38.885-07:00Shauna--no one could have described grief as well ...Shauna--no one could have described grief as well as you just did. Your words sting my heart because I know all too well what you're feeling; losing your champion in this world, your best friend, and your number one fan sucks no matter how that loss comes. <br /><br />Thank you for opening your heart to me (and everyone) in this blog, and letting me (us) share your pain, even just a little because you're right, the world should be sad and angry. Your mother was an absolute inspiration to everyone who was blessed to know her and the world certainly lost a hero a year ago. <br /><br />I love you...Lelanoreply@blogger.com